Point of Frustration

When the emotion of frustration try to sneak in...

We tend to blame other easily.

We always count what we have done for others but not what others have done for us. We always see what we have sacrificed for others but not what others have sacrificed for us. Don't try to hurt the person, I mean verbally, on the scene of emotional outburst. They are normally the unlucky one. They probably have nothing to do with the causes of your upset. Because most of time we carry our negativity for some time until we no longer can tolerate it, then it explodes, and the worst thing is that we always only have the courage to express it to someone we trust and love. You don't want to hurt them, right?

It always comes with anger.

Calm down by intentionally talking slow and soft. You can try to laugh in a very ridiculous way. Do some funny face so as to relax your muscles. Take a deep breath. Walk away from the scene until you become calm. Take a break and do some exercise. Have a nice walk in a park.

Ask: have you set an unrealistic expectation?

We always want things falseness. But we have to understand no one is perfect. No matter how thoughtful the plan we have, how smart we are, there will be mistakes made or the things we can't control. Move on. Have a realistic expectation. Don't get me wrong. I admire the people who pursue excellence. I just want to say get a balance between realistic expectation and perfection. Work hard to change the thing we can control but not the thing we can't control.

Recognize the reality.

Think about the questions. What is really important? What is really happening? Ask good advice from the wisest man you know. As a human being, we have to get wiser in order to face the increasing challenges and responsibilities. Feed your brain by reading good books. Refresh your brain by taking seminars. Practice thinking. Take a new path to work. Try something new. All these will change your dynamics. Remember, if you want to change the situation, change your attitude, your way to see the same situation changes.

Understand there is a price tag for everything.

Don't negotiate with the price. Try not to complain. In an economic driven world, we always talk about the fruit, but not what we need to put in. People always see short term but neglect that if we need to plant a tree, it takes resources and time. Know that everything comes with a package.

Don't pile up your feelings.

We always want to be nice and not tell what we don't like, when we are unhappy and need help. We keep all the feelings ourselves. Express your feeling upfront and learn to say it nicely. I mean SAY it. Avoid judgment of the person when you tell your feelings. Ask for support.